How many times have you been asked about that “thing” on your head? Hijab? I can tell you that living in a Western country, I have heard all sorts of questions:
- Aren’t you warm?
- Doesn’t it bother you?
- How do you do sports?
I find it ironic! Nobody asks these sorts of questions to a person who has hair extension. Why is that? I, myself, had hair extension for a short while, and by a short while, I mean 3 days. It was so annoying that I had to take it off as quickly as possible despite the hefty amount of money that I had spent on it. I can tell you this much; between hijab, and hair extension, hair extension takes the most-unbearable-scalp-experience award!
I am not saying that hijab is not difficult. It certainly has its drawbacks. However, why are non-hijabis so bothered about it? In one of those Q&A sessions with a non-hijabi, our conversation was as follows:
non-hijabi: Why do you wear scarf?
me: Why do you wear a top? Can you go out without a top on? Even if it is 35C outside?
non-hijabi: NO, of course not!
me: Why not?
non-hijabi: Because it’s common sense! Nobody should show their private parts out in public.
me: Who decided which parts are private, and which parts are not?
non-hijabi: The difference here is that there is no inequality between what parts women, or men should hide.
me: No. That is not true. It is not OK for women to show their nipples, but it is completely fine if men do it. Let’s look at Barcelona. Only recently, there has been a feud over this matter. And moreover, it is not common that men wear hot-pants, but women do. So really there are rules here as well, but they are “unsaid rules”. You can call it “common sense”, but those rules do exist whether you like it or not. Rules are rules.
The conversation carried on. It’s funny that the “free” people think there are no rules. No boundaries. And yet we can prove that there are so many! Yes, that “thing” on my head is a religious rule! But why is that so annoying to a non-believer. Why should I accept your rules, but you will not accept my rules!? Is it because my rules are actual/physical rules that are written down in a holy book? Is that what bothers you? Why should I always have my “defense-mode” on? Why do I have to always explain myself to you? Is it OK if I asked you: “Why are you showing your cleavage? Is it because you would like to arouse every man that passes you by?”
وَ لاَ يُبْدِيْنَ زِيْنَتَهُنَّ إِلاَّ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَ لْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلىَ جُيُوْبِهِنَّ
“…and not display their beauty except what is apparent, and they should place their khumur over their bosoms…”